In fear of disapproval or rejection from others or fear of being alone, we conform to the expectations of others …
Examples of how easily we do this:
- Comparing myself to others…dismiss MY uniqueness
- Pretending to be someone you’re not…not hurt/disappoint others
- Looking to others to complete us...set up for failure
- Forgetting about your dreams? Broken promises to Self
- Not living in the Present…regret of past or worry of future
- Addictions….to food, substances, money, status … ways to deal with the fear of individuality
Often, we don’t realize the extent or type of self-betrayal as it has grown roots in us. It often doesn’t show up until we have a big wake up call…near death experience, divorce, loss of career, parenting chaos...these may actually be Blessings in Disguise. Allowing ourselves to pivot to our Essence… what actually makes our Heart sing? The songs we lost & buried long ago….
Owe yourself an apology? If so, try:
*10 minutes of journaling a day. Whatever is on your mind. From the ridiculous to the realistic. It is a mind dump … allowing for more emotional space.
*Attune & count how many times you do or say things based on Others’ expectations. On wanting to be nice or helpful?
*Be your own Best Friend. Use a mirror, journal or recorder and sing Your praises! We all have some.
*One small change a day. Practice following Your path: your ideas, feelings and direction. Clarify your values. Learn to set Boundaries...and then lovingly enforce them. Take the risk of sharing these ideas.
*Create a Community that supports the Real You. Others who practice compassion & positivity.
"Overcoming Self-Betrayal is about believing that You matter as much as others around you. As you honor Yourself more, you will have more energy & peace to give."
