We associate the holiday season with joy, fun and a time to gather with family,  but it’s important for us to acknowledge that this season is not joyful for everyone. Holidays can be stressful because they imply time, money and energy and can bring up nostalgia and sadness.  

This holiday season, recognize that stress is all around us, and the pressure to return to family gatherings, to rush and to spend money can increase anxiety and depressive feelings so I encourage you to be mindful of your expectations…

Traditions may be important, but be open to the new.

The new ideas, people and ways to celebrate (or not!) is key to making it through this season, especially during a pandemic, flexibility is an important mental health quality.

Allow for delegation. Let others help you, especially with gatherings.

Do potluck and buffet instead of a formal sit-down dinner, let kids help with decorating and gift wrapping. Look for ways to let others help!

Allow for imperfections.

Perfectionism is at the core of much of our social anxiety. Recognize that letting things flow may actually surprise you and others.

Overall I encourage you to focus on what you DO have and what you CAN do. Gratitude is a quick stress reliever and a muscle worth stretching.