A healthy and loving relationship is not about perfection, it’s about authenticity.

Identifying healthy traits or green flags in a relationship is just as important as identifying toxic ones.

Here are a few relationship green flags you should be looking out for:

*They are INTO you. They like what and who you are, with all your glorious flaws

*There is mutual respect. They value your ideas and beliefs, cheer for your achievements and support you through losses

*They talk with you instead of at you. Sharing thoughts, feelings and ideas in a mutual and reciprocal way

*There is kindness. You are empathic and supportive with each other

*There is a mutually comfortable pace. You never feel rushed or pressured

*There is trust. Feeling that honesty is shared and valued. Feeling that you are valued

*There is interdependence. There is room for you to be yourself. And there is room to be a couple. Having solo and shared interests, friends and activities

*There is fair fighting. Healthy conflict can enhance a relationship by adding vitality and variety

*There is fun. Having playful, silly and fun times together helps create reserves for the harder times that life can throw at you!