Just as we schedule annual physical checkups to ensure our bodies are healthy, it's essential to do the same for our romantic relationships. Whether you're dating, engaged, married, or part of a blended family, I highly recommend a yearly relationship checkup.

Are you looking to maintain and develop a healthy relationship with your partner? Start by discovering your strengths and identifying potential trouble spots with this quick couple checkup. Answer the following statements with YES, NO, or SOMETIMES to pinpoint areas for improvement:

1. We often play and have fun together, just the two of us.
2. We spend time talking privately with each other at least once a week.
3. We frequently give compliments to each other.
4. I feel appreciated by my partner.
5. I feel comfortable sharing most of my feelings with my partner.
6. I feel listened to by my partner.
7. I am satisfied with how we spend our time and energy.
8. I am satisfied with how we handle anger.
9. I like the way we make decisions.
10. We have shared life dreams.

It's normal for couples to feel satisfied in many areas, but not all. Relationships require ongoing effort, and this assessment is just the first step—a relationship inventory meant to spark constructive conversations.

Tips for Productive Conversations

To help you improve your relationship, here are some tips for having effective discussions:

1. Create the Right Setting: Choose a specific time and place for your conversations. Quality time is often more important than the quantity of time spent together.
2. Listen Actively: Listen not just to the words, but also to the intention behind them. This means fully engaging and understanding your partner's perspective before responding.
3. Stay Open-Minded: Approach the conversation with empathy, assuming that both of you have valid points. Starting with a mindset geared towards compromise can be very beneficial.
4. Be Clear and Concise: Use the "big C's" of communication—clarity and concreteness. Keep your messages short and focused to stay on topic.

If you're looking for additional guidance and tools to improve or rekindle your romantic relationship, please feel free to contact me.

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